This is a mess. I really hope these two people get some couples counseling and work on the deep rooted issues that this story encompasses.  

I took over the “wall of honors” at my house. Whoops?

I took over the “wall of honors” at my house. Whoops?


What the fuck is this shit?
Seriously, this is some sexist, patriarchal bullshit right here!
And here’s a question in response: why wouldn’t he let her do it all by herself? Because he’s being nice? Or romantic? By taking her power/independence/ability away? Fuck that…
And what will he let her do for him? Why don’t we see graphics made the other way around? Where the gender expression is reversed…
He won’t let her do it by herself…? 
Because what this pic is really saying is “A real woman CAN’T do it by herself”


What the fuck is this shit?

Seriously, this is some sexist, patriarchal bullshit right here!

And here’s a question in response: why wouldn’t he let her do it all by herself? Because he’s being nice? Or romantic? By taking her power/independence/ability away? Fuck that…

And what will he let her do for him? Why don’t we see graphics made the other way around? Where the gender expression is reversed…

He won’t let her do it by herself…? 

Because what this pic is really saying is “A real woman CAN’T do it by herself”




this is more education about your vagina than you’ll receive in a US public school system so. read up! men too!

I love this infographic!

(Source: lilithdiana, via holdinghope)

Anonymous said: What is the difference between sex positive and pro-sex?

Great question!


Just preference in how you say it. I’m sex positive, I’m pro-sex, pro-sex feminist, you get the idea.

I have a few posts about the topics scattered throughout my blog if you care to take a look. Let me know if you still have questions!

Thank you,

"I’m a Feminist but…" Nonsense

"I’m a feminist but I don’t hate men."

"I’m not a feminist - I, I hail men, I love men. I celebrate American male culture, and beer, and bars and muscle cars…." -Lady Gaga

I like being a feminist, I don’t want to be a bitch.”

"I’m not a Feminist because I’m not a victim." 

As a graduate of a Women’s and Gender Studies program I’d like to think I am fully capable of understanding what feminism is and isn’t. I then take that knowledge to the streets and of course on my very own blog page, A Feminist Life. But most importantly to me, I live it.

I use what I have learned to touch the lives of everyone I meet. I represent my brand of feminism: an optimistic, pro-sex, multicultural feminist who tells it like it is even if it happens to be unfavorable. I don’t ask anyone to follow what I find acceptable, just to listen to what I have to say and use their own critical thinking skills to make their best judgment. 

It’s really that simple. For me anyway…

Did I miss the memo where the internet went crazy? Probably not, it’s always been a place of all sorts of wonders, but ever since the Supreme Court ruling on contraceptives (the attack) I’ve stumbled upon more people and opinions that attack me as a feminist- as a person- than I care to admit. To make matters worse I have found too many women saying, “I’m a Feminist but…” Yikes!

My first instinct it to flinch, then to laugh and then to feel sorry for whomever is saying that silly, terribly misguided statement. For I know when someone says that what they mean is, “I have no idea what feminism is and what it stands for.” 

So let’s recap:

That seems simple enough. Straight forward, to the point. (Yes Feminism does go off and adds to the preexisting definition, that’s ok, that’s another discussion for another time.)

"I’m a Feminist but…" is an excuse.

It’s a way out of a very lengthy conversation between one’s own morals, judgements, and experiences. It’s a conversation to have with loved ones, friends, and anyone else life throws at you. It’s a conversation we all need to keep having every day, each and every day. 

None of us can just stop having the conversation about Feminism, even if we don’t agree on what it is. It’s not easier to use the excuse, “I’m a Feminist but” because it makes things worse for everyone. It devalues what many people are doing to make the lives of women better and the struggles people face because of the lack of respect towards equal rights. 

I’m a Feminist. Proud, happy and optimistic about the future of the movement. I accept the differences that will arise, but I will not allow excuses to kill a movement that isn’t over yet- it’s far from over.



"im not a feminist"


(via notownedbyyourlabels)

mister-geecue said: You are absolutely gorgeous beyond belief, don't let anyone tell you differently or tell you what to do with it.

<3 <3 <3

Thank you, you sweet thing you! 

Really glad the pup is comfortable&#8230;

Really glad the pup is comfortable…

A Feminist Wedding Ceremony

As some of you will recall from my far too many posts about getting married (What’s In a Name?Wedding Mania'TIME' To Get MarriedYoung People and the Pressure to Lead Lives of the Past), it has finally happened and I have now married my life partner. We decided as a couple to share our ceremony.I know personally I wanted to put out into the world a feminist wedding ceremony that encompassed equality, partnership, friendship and love into one (kick-ass) ceremony that many different kinds of couples could use on their special day. Below is what we vowed to each other in front of a small group of family.


Welcome everyone! I know the couple is very honored and happy that you have made it here today. They are excited to share in their joy and hopes for the future with you. This day, is very special and means a lot to these two people. They would like you all to know how seriously they take the vows they are about to make to each other and hope that from this day forward, you help remind them of these vows they are making. They’ve also come here today in the further hope that their ritual of bonding will help bring us all closer together. If you are here tonight with a spouse or a partner let this ceremony be a reminder—a rededication of your own loving bond.

Now [insert both names], you have let it be known that it is your firm understanding that you are not entering into this marriage for reasons of security… that the only real security is not in owning or possessing, nor in being owned or possessed…not in demanding or expecting, and not even in hoping, that what you think you need in life will be supplied by the other….but rather in knowing that everything you need in life…all of the love, all of the wisdom, all the insights, all the power, all the knowledge, all the understanding, all the nurturing, all the compassion, and all the strength….resides within you…and that you are not each marrying the other in hopes of getting these things, but in hopes of giving these gifts, that the other might have them in even greater abundance. 

It is also known that you do not see marriage as producing obligations but rather as providing opportunities…opportunities for growth, for full Self-expression for lifting your lives to their highest potential, for healing every false thought or small idea you ever had about yourself. It is also about a journey through life with the one you love as an equal partner sharing equally both the authority and the responsibilities inherent in any partnership, bearing equally what burdens there be, basking equally in the glories. 

Is that your firm understanding of this ceremony? (Both responds, “it is.”)

[Insert both names], as the two of you come into this marriage uniting you as life partners, and as you, on this day affirm your love for one another, I would ask that you always remember to cherish each other as special and unique individuals. That you respect the thoughts, ideas and suggestions of one another. Be able to forgive and live each day, so that you may share it together. Moving forward you shall be each other’s home, comfort and refuge in times of trouble, and that your marriage will be strengthened by your love and respect.

Just as two threads woven in opposite directions will form a most beautiful tapestry, so too can your two lives merged together make a beautiful marriage. To make your relationship thrive, it will take work. But love and friendship are the core of your marriage and why you are here today. It will take trust, to know in your hearts that you truly want the best for each other. It will take dedication, to stay open and honest with one another. It will take patience to learn and grow together. It will take faith, to go forward together without knowing exactly what the future brings. 

And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both pledge today to share together. 

Statement of Intent:

[Insert both names], do you to enter into this marriage believing the love you  both share and your faith in each other will endure all things? (Couple responds, “I do.”)


May I please have the rings? 

A circle is the symbol that has no beginning and no end. May these rings always be a symbol of this unity. Your two lives are now joined in one unbroken circle. Wherever you may go, may you always return to each other in your togetherness. May you find in each other the love that you desire, and may you grow together in compassion and understanding. May these rings symbolize the touch of love that is in your hearts today.

[Insert both names], will now say their vows to each other. 

I (name), take you (name) to be my partner in life and my one true love. I will cherish our union and promise to fall in love with you a little more every day. I will love what I know of you, and trust what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the (man/woman) you will become. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, sickness and health, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I will delight in our relationship and comfort you in times of sorrow.  I will share in your dreams, and support you as you strive to achieve your goals. I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement. I will continue to be by your side through all of life’s adventures. I vow to never stop fighting for you or our relationship. 

I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as I live.”

Throughout this ceremony, these two people have vowed, in our presence, to be loyal and loving towards each other. They have formalized the existence of the bond between them with words spoken and with the giving and receiving of rings. 

[Insert both names], may your home be a place of happiness for all who enter it; a place for growing and a place for sharing, a place for music and a place for laughter, and a place for love. 

You have kissed a thousand times, maybe more, but today the feeling is new.Today, your kiss is a promise. And now, as a symbol of the commitment you both enter as life partners, you may now kiss.

 (Pause for kiss)

And now by the authority granted me by [governing body name], it is my pleasure to introduce the newlyweds, [insert name(s) as couple sees fit].

(Like the photos? Visit Justine Montigny for more of her beautiful work!)

Just wanted to send some loving to all my new and pre-existing followers!

Thank you for the support… And now some Rocky photos for your enjoyment!

"Dear, I know you are trying- you always try. You never not try. It’s why I married you!"

— My wonderful life partner who is the most supportive person I know.

xargen said: Thanks for the follow, however I should probably warn you that you'll likely not agree with most of my views when it comes to feminism... I have butted heads a time or two in the past over some issues, just an FYI =)

You are very welcome! I’m not afraid of your viewpoints. I’d be a terrible feminist and person if I couldn’t handle someone else’s views on different subjects.

I don’t believe in surrounding myself with people who think like me or only agree with me. Where’s the fun or the growth in that? ;)

moronic-muggles said: You're so pretty

Thank you so much! That’s very kind of you :)